Some Thoughts on the Nobility of Womanhood
Reflection for the 33rd Sunday in Ordinary Time
Deacon Douglas McManaman
The readings for the 33rd Sunday in Ordinary Time are very interesting, and I had to take some time to think about how the first reading in particular relates to the second reading and the gospel. I am not sure if I succeeded in figuring it out, but I was intrigued by the first reading from Proverbs, which focuses on the ideal woman, in particular, the married woman–but of course, the text is really about the dignity of women in general.
I was particularly struck by the line: “Her husband, entrusting his heart to her, has an unfailing prize.” It is this “entrusting his heart to her” that is important. When you entrust your heart to someone, you have placed complete trust in that person, that this person will not squeeze that heart and leave you wounded. Marriage demands a great deal of trust, because in time couples come to know one another very well; they know each other’s flaws, imperfections, and idiosyncrasies. And in time, the libido begins to wane, the flower wilts, and we simply don’t look like we did when we were younger, and so if a marriage is going to endure, it demands a charity that can love one’s spouse not for what that person can do for me, but for that person’s own sake and unconditionally. That’s a love that is very difficult to achieve, which is why so many marriages crash after a time.
What is also particularly interesting is that the woman is depicted here not as a passive, submissive and frail little maiden, dependent upon the care of the all governing man of the house. No, she is active, she has initiative; she has business acumen.
She seeks wool and flax…She considers a field and buys it,…She girds herself with strength, and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. (Prov 31, 13-15)
This is not the image of the typical woman of a highly patriarchal society, the subservient housewife that we are familiar with from the sitcoms of the early 60s. The Jewish scriptures provide a very different image. It begins in the second chapter of Genesis in which the woman is created last. This signifies that she is the culmination, climax, and crown of creation, not a subordinate afterthought.[1] The depiction of woman coming from the rib of man is very revealing; for the man (e-adm) has nothing to do with the creation of woman; he is put into a deep sleep; thus, he exercises no dominion over her. In this instance, he is the one who is entirely passive. The depiction of a woman coming from his side is very symbolic; for the man (e-adm) comes from the mud of the earth (ath-e·adme), while the woman comes from a higher place, above the ground, from a more refined source, namely the rib. This narrative symbolizes two things: that woman is of the same substance as man, hence, man and woman are equal, but it also suggests that since she comes from a higher and more refined place, her role is to reach down towards the ground and lift him up, challenging him to a greater moral and spiritual nobility. So although the man and the woman are equal, there is a hint that the woman is, in some sense, superior, and his role is to be humble and allow himself to be thus challenged and to rise to the occasion.
And then we have the following verse: “…let her works praise her in the city gates”. In the ancient world, the city gates were not merely the entryways in a wall; they were the civilian, economic, and the legal heart of the community, and so this verse constitutes in fact the ultimate declaration of the highest public honour, legal recognition, and economic respect.
It is in the third chapter of Genesis that we see the introduction of a perpetual conflict between the man and the woman: “You will have desire for your husband, but he will rule over you” (Gn 3, 16). What this means is that the domination and oppression of women throughout history was the result of man’s sin and his desire to be “as gods”, and not the expression of the divine will; it is a perversion of the order of creation.
If I am to relate this first reading to the gospel (the Parable of the Talents), I will say this. Over the years, I have been increasingly impressed with the talents and brilliance of others, first my colleagues in teaching with their unique minds (historical, mathematical, scientific, literary, etc.), but more generally the special talents and gifts of the faithful. And I’ve been especially impressed with the brilliance of certain women, who have real gifts of leadership, such as school principals, directors of education, as well as women psychiatrists, surgeons, research scientists, women philosophers, writers, theologians, women biblical scholars, etc. I’m thinking of people like Elizabeth Anscombe, Flannery O’Conner, Jungian psychologist Ann Ulanov, or Ruth Barnhouse, Barbara Reid, Ilia Delio, Beatrice Bruteau, and of course we have great women in our tradition, such as Catherine of Siena, Hildegard of Bingen, Theresa of Avila, Julian of Norwich, Beatrice of Nazareth, etc. But there is no doubt that over the centuries, the extraordinary talents of women were in large part buried, as it were, so we are kind of like the man in the gospel who buried the single talent, all as a result of his misperception of the character of God—looking upon God as stern and unreasonably demanding. The man buried the talent because he was risk averse, and was more concerned about controlling the outcome. Out of the more than 10,000 officially recognized saints and blesseds in the Church, only a fraction, close to 800, are women. That leaves a lot of buried talent. To be fair, the hierarchy has actively worked to address this imbalance, in particular Pope John Paul II and his successors–they accelerated the canonization of women, focusing more and more on laywomen, mothers, and female foundresses of religious orders. But it is so important for us to become attuned to the unique and extraordinary talents of others, especially women, to recognize them and allow them to lift us higher. But this requires that we recognize and embrace our limitations, which can be more or less difficult for some of us.
Finally, the description of the ideal woman in the first reading really is about all of us, men included, because in relation to God, we are woman: creation is woman, the Church is woman. In fact, we were created in the image and likeness of God, and according to St. Maximilian Kolbe, there is divine motherhood in God, which is the Holy Spirit. Kolbe refers to the Holy Spirit as the uncreated Immaculate Conception–Mary being the created Immaculate Conception. He points out that the one thing that a mother desires more than anything else is to see the bond between Father and Son, and the Holy Spirit is the Personified love that binds the Father and the Son. And so the Holy Spirit is the divine motherhood in God.[2] And in the same way, there is what Carl Jung refers to as the anima in every man, which is the feminine aspect within us, and it is utterly important for men to embrace this anima, this feminine aspect within themselves; if the male represses it, he will simply continue to oppress the female gender outside of himself.[3] So today’s readings call us to allow the great women of our lives and our tradition to lift us to a much higher psychological and spiritual level. The world can only be healed not through domination, coercion, show of force, fear and intimidation, but through nurture, which is why the great Rabbis teach that it is by man’s union with the feminine that he can learn to heal the world through nurture, and so learn to become more truly a man [4].
Notes
1. Phyllis Trible. “Depatriarchalizing in Biblical Interpretation”, Journal of the American Academy of Religion, Mar., 1973, Vol. 41, No. 1, Mar., 1973.
2. “In God, in the very depths of the divine being, there exists a certain motherhood of love, the Holy Spirit, who links Father and Son with each other in joy and peace”. Fr. H. M. Manteau-Bonamy, O.P. The Immaculate Conception and the Holy Spirit: The Marian Teachings of St. Maximilian Kolbe. Libertyville, IL: Prow Books, 1975, p. 23.
3. “Jung believed that within every person there are elements of the opposite sex. This contrasexual core, which Jung calls the anima in the male personality and the animus in the female, performs the specific psychic function of connecting the conscious male or female ego-identity with the deeper regions of the unconscious which Jung calls the objective psyche. Jung calls this deep unconscious layer of the psyche objective because our subjective ego-consciousness gradually emerges out of its prior existence and continues to experience that existence as other than itself, alien to its own subjective ego-territory. In contrast to what Jung calls the personal layer of the unconscious, whose contents consist of repressed memories and traits which can be recalled to consciousness and experienced as belonging to the ego, the contents of the objective psyche, the archetypes, are more impersonal and collective in nature and hence harder to integrate into conscious adaptation…. Thus, to the conscious ego the anima or animus seems to be an impersonal “other” that confronts the ego from outside itself. Somehow the ego must learn to bring this force into connection with its own personal identity. Jung coined the word “anima” and “animus” as a result of observing in countless patients split-off sides of the psyche recurrently appearing in personified forms as male or female figures. One common example was the overly rational male who consistently dreamed of being confronted by an emotional and sexy female who tempted him into “irrational” behavior. On awakening, the dreamer still felt possessed by the mood of this dream anima-figure, invaded by a bittersweet mixture of excitement and longing. This anima-lure is typical of the way the unconscious tries to acquaint the one-sided ego with affects and impulses it has excluded from its conscious functioning. This is what Jung means when he says that the function of the contrasexual factor is to lead us to the deeper realms of the objective psyche. The anima-figure points the way, in this example, to the split-off nonrational side of life.” Ann Belford Ulanov. “C. G. Jung on Male and Female” in Male and Female: Christian Approaches to Sexuality, edited by Ruth Tiffany Barnhouse and Urban. T. Holmes, III. New York: Seabury Press, 1976, pp. 197-199.
4. “A woman’s influence is different from a man’s. A man needs to conquer, to vanquish an opponent. Therefore, his victory is often superficial—he may get the other guy to nod his head, but not to surrender his heart. A woman is able to reach inside a man, so he may not even recognize her influence. He feels as though this was his idea all along. Her conquest is through nurture. From where does this talent come? Paradoxically, from the woman’s union with a man. In that union, she discovers what it is to be a woman, and how a woman conquers with love. So too, from the man’s union with a woman, he can learn to heal the world through nurture. To be truly a man.” Sefer Hasichot 5751, Noach